Let’s Start With 3 Fundamental Claims
Becoming a leader is synonymous with becoming yourself.
It is precisely that simple, and it is also that difficult.
Developing a New Second Nature
What people usually do when faced with leadership challenges is try to adopt a new way of being using old ways of learning: book, lecture, video. These are great vehicles for taking in new ideas, but unfortunately, having a pretty good idea of what to do is rarely enough to help you actually do things differently.
To become a more masterful leader, you need more than just good ideas. You need to actually embody a way of being that supports your vision and your aims. In other words, you need to put what you learn into action again and again until it becomes second nature. If you’re seeking to take more effective action on behalf of your goals, then you need to engage your body as well as your mind.
I’m not talking about situps and pushups here – I’m talking about developing an embodied leadership presence that builds trust and gets things done. You’ve probably known someone who has that kind of presence: when they walk into a room, people sit up and take notice. These leaders naturally inspire action and consistently galvanize themselves and others behind worthwhile goals. That kind of leadership comes from the inside out, and cultivating it requires training your whole self.
Be the Change Leadership Skills
Be the Change Coaching supports you in embodying the life and leadership skills that help you bring your dreams to life.
Purposeful action is about having directional clarity. It’s about living and leading with heart and meaning. It’s about putting who and what you love at the center of your life. It’s about knowing where you’re going, and why. It’s about consistently taking action on your true priorities and eliminating unimportant distractions and inessential tasks. It’s about articulating a compelling vision, connecting your actions to your cares, and creating the future you imagine and the change you want to see.
Purpose • Vision • Clarity • Commitment • Flexible Determination • Consistency • Accountability
Personal mastery is about bringing your best to every situation. It’s about being authentic and speaking your mind, even when the pressure’s on. It’s about developing the resilience to handle the inevitable stresses and pressures that come with creating change. It’s about becoming more creative and resourceful under pressure, and meeting chaos, confusion, and conflict with poise and equanimity – even ease.
Resilience • Relaxation • Satisfaction • Balance • Authenticity • Equanimity • Ease • Grace under Pressure
Interpersonal agility is about the ability to build and maintain strong relationships. It’s about building trust and enlisting support. It’s about communicating clearly and making clean agreements so you can share responsibility more effectively. It’s about developing a strong presence, making human connections, and maintaining clear boundaries. We all exist in a network of relationships that we rely upon to bring our dreams to life. Interpersonal agility is about making those relationships sing.
Empathy • Compassion • Connection • Clear Communication • Effective Coordination
Powerful leadership is about inviting, inspiring, and igniting people’s best efforts on behalf of your vision. It’s about influencing with integrity and having the impact you intend. It’s about giving and receiving feedback with dignity and respect. It’s about holding high standards for performance, and effectively dealing with breakdowns when they occur. It’s about turning conflict into opportunity. It’s about learning to advocate without aggression and take a stand for what’s most important.
Leadership Presence • Influence • Advocacy • High Standards • Generative Conflict Resolution
To increase your own and others commitment to take action, you need to be clear about the direction you’re headed and stand behind it with your entire being. That begins with connecting to what matters to you in a heartfelt, visceral way.
2. Get familiar with what’s standing in your way.
Everyone has habitual ways of being that don’t support where they want to go and who they want to be. As long as those habits remain outside your awareness, it’s difficult – if not impossible – to choose a different course of action. The mind-body approach I use makes blind spots visible in a gentle but undeniable way, opening the doorway to new and more effective choices.
Let’s be clear though: This is NOT about scolding yourself into “better behavior.” Rather it’s about interrupting and uprooting the patterns that aren’t serving you so there’s room for something new to take hold.
3. Practice new ways of being.
Together we’ll identify new skills and actions that support more of what you care about. Then you’ll practice them in low-stakes situations until they become second nature, so that when the going gets tough, it’s what comes to you naturally.
This process probably sounds straightforward enough, but most people discover the approach to be unlike anything they’ve tried before. More than sitting and listening (or talking), you’ll be up moving around and engaging with others. Rather than learning about models of leadership, you’ll investigate your own experience. You’ll even have the opportunity to engage in bodywork that can actually change the way you show up in your everyday life.
All of this amounts to a path of personal growth and self-cultivation that goes beyond self-involved navel gazing to focus on how you can be of service in the world. It’s about stepping further onto the path of your destiny and learning to be as effective as you can so that you can give your best to what you care about most.
By applying embodied mindfulness-in-action to the process of bringing your deepest cares to life, you’ll open a reservoir of energy, resourcefulness, and commitment that you never knew you had. Along the way you’ll deepen your own sense of fulfillment and satisfaction as you become increasingly effective at making the contribution that is uniquely yours to make.
Packages & Pricing
Pick your package. Glimmer, Spark, Glow, Blaze…
OK, How do I get started?
Step 1: Register for a Coaching Discovery Session below. ($95) The purpose of the discovery session is to evaluate whether we want to work together. If we decide to proceed the $95 fee will be applied to the price of the coaching package you choose.
Step 2: Design – During the Discovery session we’ll discuss your needs, budget, and availability for coaching. You’ll come away with a better idea of what you want to accomplish and more motivation to do so, regardless of whether you decide to work with me. During our conversation I’ll recommend a coaching package that fits your situation, or we may co-design a customized plan.
Step 3: Decide – Following our conversation, you’ll have at least two weeks to think it over before making a decision about how to move forward. Beyond two weeks I can’t promise to hold a space for you, but we can always resume our conversation any time you’re ready.